a mash-up of friendship & internet
I recently found out that one of my internet friends is famous. For the sake of approximately six very good reasons, I won’t tell you the circumstances or the details of the aforementioned fame, but needless to say it was both (a) a curious discovery and (b) a kind of reckoning of the state of our friendship, a’la that it’s now almost entirely electronic.
We weren’t always just e-friends. In fact, we’d met in real life and spent real time in the same real space. We’d worked together. We’d spent sometime outside of work together. And we’d generally hung out.
Then drifting occurred: lives shifted, moves happened, and careers diverged. In the end, the best we could muster was a kind of long distance electronic friendship that has over the last couple years degraded to little more than a scattered collection of social media check-ins and digital stalking. We were still connected, friendly, and interested in each other’s lives, but the gaps of time and space left a fog around the definition of that friendly relationship.