a mash-up of siblings & rest
I have two siblings, a brother and a sister, and I can probably write here whatever I want about them because I doubt either of them will ever read it. I probably won’t… but the point is (a) that I can and (b) I can because neither of them are really big readers of blogs or interested in the weird sorts of things that I am that would cause us to have overlapping interests and thus lead them to follow my social media updates or bookmark my various blogs.
Despite being brought up in the same house, in (mostly) the same era, by the same parents, we are fundamentally different people.
I suppose I should explain the topic. The idea of “rest” of the “soul” is something that I’ve equated to the idea of a kind of stillness of mind or body. It is a state of being undisturbed, unchallenged, unshaken or grounded fast to the roots of something.
When you have a sibling, and you are young (at least now, I’m writing from personal experience) those siblings are the roots themselves. Everything you know, think, believe, and otherwise define yourself by are cemented into that close-knit family relationship.
But then something interesting happens as you grow up. No matter who you are and how much you maintain those familial bonds, individuality emerges and like a force of nature itself you work to define yourself. Add a few kids, a couple years living and working abroad, work, life, pain, and any experience into the mix and your identity drifts further and further away from that of anyone you knew as a child. It’s just how things work.
But there is something special about that sibling relationship, isn’t there? They challenge those differences, not purposefully or maliciously, but simply by existing and being their own selves.
Why? That mental firmament into which we would normally remain undisturbed, unchallenged, unshaken or grounded in the things we think or believe, for better or worse, is shared territory. Our siblings, under standard circumstances at least, share those roots, that past, that foundation and that mutual overlap can’t help but cause a little unrest in whatever differences have emerged since.